The Mindset of the Happy Folk

i feal that the reason that the human psychee strives for relationships and friendships is because we have subconcious questions and feelings which we dont know the answer to. the only way we can get the answer is by surrounding ourselves with the kind of people or the situation we think would have the answer we want. but if we, in turn, just find out that they dont have the answer to that all important question, but have a diffrent answer which we werent ready to believe or accept. we will then turn to our natural instinct, emotion. emotion is what animals evolved to make them respond properly to stimulus which would otherwise take inteligent thought. as the human race has evolved we have evolved the aspect of inteligent thought and hense emotion is rendered useless and distractive. this is the stem of drama and loss of those which you were close to.

people suffer because they dont understand how to percieve the reality around them. they constantly run around in fear constantly being negative. if one is constantly thinking about the things which could go wrong when they do go wrong there wont be any surprise and surprise is what causes emotion. emotion is the only thing out of our controll that effects our perseption in any way other than how we would like it to be. if you just realize that being angry or sad doesnt effect the outcome of that event in any way other than a negative way and you can change your attitude to be a positive reflection of the fact that i am still here and i am still learning from my mistakes, you will only gain a greater controll over your perseption and a more positive one at that. every time something goes bad you should automaticaly understand that you are still alive and you have just learned something. what you have just learned will stop you from, in the future, having the same ill luck come apon you because you have learned something.

now that you have learned this you can use your knolege to prepare yourself before you go into a situation to make that situation turn out as a positive one. because you know that being negative wont make any situation beter you can also immagine the things which could go wrong and take pride in the fact that you are prepared instead of being scared or depressed. by being scared you are in a way putting yourself in the emotional state you would be in when something goes wrong before hand so it cant effect you in that way. the whole mindset is a kind of thought loop that can only make you happier with time.